I have watched them over the last several years and thank God for their mother. They are much better parents than I was. Having said all that, I do know that it is not too late to develop, foster and improve the relationship that I have with my children.
I needed to get that out before giving fathers and mothers, and those who have assumed the role of parents, some things that the Holy Spirit has shown me in the last few years.
The Holy Spirit has shown me that although many people don’t think that they really have many needs…they do. It is the responsibility of parents, and since it’s close to Father’s Day, let's be more specific it’s the responsibility of fathers to meet the needs of their children…no matter their age. This post lists ten intimate needs that are there no matter the age and it’s up to us fathers to meet them. Meeting our children's needs is the physical, emotional, and spiritual practice of love. When meeting the needs of our children, we look most like Jesus.
The Top Ten Intimacy Needs
1. Acceptance: Can you receive me and unconditionally love me even if I never change?
2. Affection: We are talking about touches and cuddles and verbalized expressions of love.
3. Appreciation: This has to do with someone commending the things you do.
4. Attention: Who is spending time with you?
5. Approval: This is close to appreciation but also contains an affirmation of who you are.
6. Comfort: Who will let you cry? Who will cry with you? If you only have one temperature, you don’t have enough.
7. Encouragement: This is to urge others to fulfill their dreams, goals, and desires. Who’s your cheerleader?
8. Respect: The key word here is value. I need someone to value my opinions, ideas, thoughts, and convictions.
9. Security: This is not just freedom from physical harm and having the doors locked. It has to do with emotional protection.
10. Support: This is a practical need. "I don’t need you to criticize me or advise me, I need you to get under this burden and share the load with me.”
Pay attention to your children’s needs and deliberately meet them daily. You’ll be a great father, a great parent.