"Beta marriage" - Couple tests the relationship for two years then decides to dissolve or commit to it.
"Real estate" marriage - Couples commit to a set period of time ranging from 5 to 30 years. At the end of the set time the couple renegotiate if they want to stay married.
A survey of millennials found that 43 percent would support a "beta marriage" and, 36 percent supported a "real estate" marriage.
Studies show that neither of these models will work. If you want to set your marriage up for failure, then live together. Research shows that couples who live together before making a marriage commitment have a far higher divorce rate than those who don’t.
If you’re planning to go into marriage thinking that you will get out of it here or there, then don’t get married. When a couple gets married, they need to commit to each other for a lifetime.
We need to constantly grow in our marriages, and God has given us a user’s manual for how to have a successful and blessed marriage. It’s called the Bible.
Ephesians 5:31 NIV “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
When married couples have problems in their marriages, they often blame each other. However, the issue usually is that they are unwilling to take any responsibility. Both parties must work at it to have a successful marriage. A successful marriage doesn’t happen by accident.
Marriage is not like a fairy tale where “and they lived happily ever after.” It doesn’t always work out that way, but a couple can live happily even after, if they do it God’s way.
So instead of the beta marriage model or the real estate marriage model, choose God’s model for marriage: a lifelong commitment.
Genesis 2:18 NIV The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Genesis 2:24 NIV That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.